Faith-Based Groups

Support those who serve by identifying families in need of extra help because of service-related stressors, motivating communities to come together on behalf of those who serve, and connecting military families to the supports and services they need.

Have You Ever Served In The Military?

One question can make a big difference...

Why Ask The Question

Faith-based organizations provide communities with an opportunity to come together with shared purpose. For many, helping those in need is a key part of the mission. Many military families are proud and quiet. They may participate in local services, but might not readily identify themselves as military. You might not know whether or not a family is dealing with military deployment, the wounds of war, or other challenges common to military-veteran life. The only way to find out is to ASK!

Ask The Question

When an individual or family joins your group, ask, "Have you or a family member ever served in the military?"

When the answer is "yes," you may consider thanking them for their service. You may also then be able to find out more about their military experience which can help you and your group to provide the best possible services, support, and referrals. Asking further questions will also help you to:

  • Build rapport and demonstrate interest and cultural competency
  • Link to any needed military and veteran resources and referrals, including both VA and non-VA programs
  • Enhance fellowship and find ways that your group can provide support
  • Identify service-related stressors as well as individual and family strengths, supports, and resources
  • Explore deployment and reintegration challenges and provide support to families during these times
  • Highlight their spiritual and religious practices that bring them comfort
  • Address perceived barriers to seeking support
  • If engaging in pastoral counseling, identify mental health concerns that will need further diagnostic and treatment work and will impact treatment goals

Get To Know Your Veteran

Following are some questions that could be asked in the context of gathering information for more effective referrals and services. Pay attention to non-verbal cues, and show respect, curiosity, and empathy. Also be aware that responsiveness and effective follow–up are critical to building trust and rapport.

When did you/your family member serve? What service era? Which Branch?

  • Build rapport with the parent and child and demonstrate interest and cultural competency
  • Identify family supports and resources as well as needs for support not yet met

In what ways may your need for services here be connected to your/your family member's military service?

  • Identify any deployment-related stressors on the child and family as well as any related behavioral, emotional, social, and academic implications for the child
  • Explore deployment and reintegration challenges

Is your child facing or has recently faced a family member's deployment or military duty away from home? If yes, when?

  • Identify any deployment-related stressors on the child and family as well as any related behavioral, emotional, social, and academic implications for the child
  • Explore deployment and reintegration challenges

Are you/your family member enrolled/connected to the VA or other veteran resource or organizations for support or services?

  • Link to any needed military and veteran resources and benefits, including both VA and non-VA programs
  • Identify family supports and resources as well as needs for support not yet met

What types of support are needed but not yet met?

  • Link to any needed military and veteran resources and benefits, including both VA and non-VA programs
  • Identify family supports and resources as well as needs for support not yet met

What reservations did you/your child have about coming in to seek support and assistance? Is there anything that might be a barrier to further seeking assistance?

  • Address perceived barriers to the child or parent(s) in seeking support